Earlier this monnth I received a call at the office and he said it was Bill. "Bill, the appraiser, or Bill, from high school?", I asked. He said, "Your old boyfriend, Bill." "Oh", I said. He said he wanted to see me as he was in town visiting his daughter. I said, "Ok, do you know where I am?" "Yes, a friend from your church has kept tabs on you and he told me where to find you."
So, that night, I told my daughters about the call and since I was about 50 lbs heavier that when we dated in the late 50's and I asked my girls for an idea of what to wear.
The next day when he came in the office, he walked right by where Richard was standing and came to the front where my desk was. We walked out the front door and over to Dairy Queen and talked. I am not sure Richard was even aware but I did not take Bill back and introduce him. I was not sure what he wanted. But Richard knew all about our relationship and that we had almost married and Bill wrote me after Richard and I were already married as if he wanted to get back together but he did not know I was married, of course. So we had broken up in May and I was already married in October..."pretty fast," he had commented, when I let him know.
He is divorced and has a 5 year daughter from a first marriage living in Carlsbad and his ex-wife was also in the real estate business. He said I would enjoy doing loans for her. Evidently he had a great business in Washington and then his manager got into drugs and monies were mishandled and he lost it all and his wife left him.
At one point he started to take my hand as we sat across from each other and then thought better of it. He said, "We should have married... but you were saved by not, for sure." Or something like that. He did not tell me then but it was not too long after this visit he remarried and to his chiropractor.
Not exactly sure why he visited, just checking as to where I was in my marriage I guess. He had lost all the weight he had gained when he was under so much stress so wanted me to see him that way I suppose. He is also selling some pills to help weight loss but he did not try to sell me any. But he did tell me he had rented a white car with the top down in honor of our visit. That is what he was driving when we were dating. I am sure we both have good memories of those days.
I really enjoyed dating Bill but I am so positive it was not right for us to marry. He did leave me some nice poems and happy memories of sailing and dancing and having a lot of great times riding around San Diego in his convertible. Great sense of humor, always had me laughing. I really enjoyed the time I spent with him in San Diego.
Also in 1990 I made a LIST!!!
